“For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been entrusted to us, the ultimate task, the final test and proof, the work for which all other work is merely preparation. Loving does not at first mean merging, surrendering, and uniting with another person– it is a high inducement for the individual to ripen, to become something in himself, to become world, to become world in himself for the sake of another person; it is a great, demanding claim on him, something that chooses him and calls him to vast distance… Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distances exist, a marvelous living side-by-side can grow up for them, if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the possibility of seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky.” — Rainer Maria Rilke
In the threshold of marriage we enter into a conscious path of practicing love. We enter into the opportunity to see ourselves reflected daily in the words and actions of our chosen partner. We have the opportunity to choose our own ripening, to become one step at a time, our best and highest self. We can evolve out of selfishness and into the consciousness of ‘we’. In becoming brighter lights for the benefit of our partner, we become brighter for all the beings we come into contact with. In choosing to love another, we choose to love ourselves. We choose to love the world. We choose Love.
As an interfaith minister who is committed to walking a prayer of unity and peace in daily life, I would be honored to hold you and your partner in crossing the threshold of uniting with each other in Love. This is a threshold we choose. It takes a courageous heart. In the process of the wedding and all the choices the act of marrying entails, we can learn so much about ourselves. We can learn how we still yearn to ripen, about our beloved, about our connection, about what we value and how we want to live side-by-side, and how we want to hold each other in possibility and wholeness.
I remember speaking with a dear friend of mine as she was in the midst of making a long list of choices about her wedding. (Will there be liquor? If so, cash or an open bar? What does that imply for each side of the family when one side requires beer at every gathering while the other side has a number of alcoholic members? What are the ‘favors’ and what does the gift we give our guests say about how we value them? … and on and on) I was struck by many things in this conversation. One, she was making every choice, every tiny choice, consciously with her fiancé. This was not the bride’s show, or the mother of the bride’s show. They acknowledged this process of planning their wedding event as an opportunity to grow together, to understand each other in a deeper way, and to clearly express their intentions for their life together in the choices they made. They were conscious of the fact that this event would most likely be the only time her grandmother would meet his mother, the only time in fact that these two families and communities of friends would perhaps ever come together as they all hailed from different spots in the country. They recognized that each element was a beautiful opportunity to express their Love. Love for who they were as individuals, as a couple, and as two members of many communities. A wedding ceremony is an opportunity to create with your love a living piece of art, an experience filled with beauty and authenticity not just for the bride and groom but for every member of the family and community that creates the circle of sacred witnesses.
I am honored to work with all couples who are seeking a ceremony that reflects an authentic expression of their love.
The process of creating your ceremony: We begin with a phone conversation to see if I am a fit for you both. Next I will send you a questionnaire that each partner will fill out separately and send back. Once I receive your questionnaires then will meet in person to get to know each other. We can talk about many possibilities and dream up the bones of your ceremony. Over the next few months we will email back and forth ideas, poems, passages and will continue to sculpt and refine your ceremony. I will officiate your wedding and sign your license. I offer weddings currently on a sliding scale basis. You will be asked to make a donation at our first meeting, and another on your wedding day. Many couples choose to receive spiritual counseling though their church. If you don’t belong to a particular congregation, or even if you do, you may choose to work with me on a regular basis. I also ofter weekly, biweekly, or monthly meetings for partners leading up to your wedding day, and afterward if you choose to continue. This partner work can include spiritual counseling, meditation, massage and yoga practice for each individual as well as practices and tools for you both. I am honored to support your continuous growth and deepening connection as a couple.
I look forward to walking this path with you. I offer ceremonies in Encinitas, North San Diego Beach Cites, Downtown San Diego, Laguna Beach, and throughout Orange County. You may reach me anytime on my cell 917-676-5438 to begin our process.
Many blessings, Rev. Jenn Cormier